Pleasure is not only a normal aspect of sexuality, its healthy and a positive thing for relationships. Sexual pleasure is the feeling we have when we are sexually aroused. Sexual arousal is our body’s response to sexual stimulation. We may become aroused by things we hear, see, smell, taste, or touch.
Learning about pleasure can help you make better decisions for your sex life. Plus people with fulfilling sex lives tend to be less anxious or depressed and have greater self-esteem and better marriages!
Sexual pleasure can also be experienced in many forms – from masturbation, touching, kissing or oral sex to sexual fantasies and a wide range of other sources. People experience sexual pleasure in all kinds of ways and what one person considers extremely pleasurable, another person may not. There are also many ways to heighten this sexual pleasure – by being comfortable with yourself and your partner, for example, or by waiting for the mood to be right for both of you, or by being certain that you are protected from unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
How you see and understand sex has a lot to do with what you’ve learned about it, how it’s viewed by your society or culture, and what value you place on it as a part of your life.
In an ongoing sexual relationship, good sex can mean knowing what you want and what your partner wants, knowing how to talk about it comfortably, and never being forced to do anything you don’t want to do. It can also mean experiencing orgasms or an intense physical pleasure from your partner. Having good sex in a relationship can contribute to a person’s overall sexual satisfaction.
Life changes, like having children and getting older, can also have an impact on sex and sexual pleasure (both positive and negative). Dealing with such changes could require you and your partner to be flexible, recognize your limitations and even shift the way you think – and it is always important to keep the lines of communication open.